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Post by Jessica on Jul 4, 2021 18:40:26 GMT
1. I think the only person who can answer this question is you. You decide what and who you are. For me, I would say yes in my opinion it does. A trans girl is someone who was born in a male body and feels as though they are female. You have said several times that is how you feel. So yes, I'd say I'd call you a trans girl. The real question is whether or not YOU feel that way about yourself, AND whether or not YOU feel there is more to it than that. Do you feel genderfluid? Do you feel simply nonbinary feminine? Do you feel like a transvestite? And really at the end of the day, the label matters less than how you feel on the inside. 2. Having never seen your actual face unedited, and having never heard from the male side of you that you present to the world I picture you as a woman who looks like the one in the pictures you post. The picture hasn't really changed. And I don't think in voices so I don't know how I would picture your voice. I would have to think about that. 3. Hoooooooo boy. As I have said several times, this is really the question I am trying to answer. Am I a woman with a man's body, or am I something else? Is there room for both versions of me inside my head? Honestly, right now I lean towards that. That there are two people in there that are basically twins in one body. The James side of me, I think, is just as real as the Jess side of me. If I was magically transformed into a woman today, would James still be in there or would he disappear? I honestly don't know. I don't know if he would still be there as a person, but there are parts of him that have marked on my brain and would still be there. James is why I am a huge obnoxious sports fan, and work as a coach for my job. James has a fatherly instinct to roughhouse and protect my family and that would remain. James is a huge part of me, even when I am feeling more like Jess. So I don't really know! Sometimes I feel like a crazy person when I talk about this....having two people inside me. 1. Having read Chloe's reply, this has helped clarified things for me. I think trans girl fits well enough for me now, because I don't know more of the specifics. I was just looking for something to call myself other than a man, but knew woman wasn't right either. I think the main problem for me is that I have a loose grip on which behaviours are male and which are female. Therefore I cannot determine when I'm feeling or behaving one way or the other. So how do I tell if I'm any of those terms you listed or any others. I've just always been me, but have obviously restricted and repressed my desire to be feminine. Right now, I don't know the amount there was that I repressed. So trans girl is the best label for me because it isn't too specific, but I know that I definitely fit under that term. Right now I do feel that I would like to be appear and be treated as a woman. I now feel far more likely to press that magic red button that would instantly transform me. 2. Having read all the answers so far that helps. I think I asked because I'm not sure how I see myself inside. I know have been picturing myself more often as the woman in those photos. When I look in the mirror I tend to see the woman in there amongst the clear masculine appearance. Don't worry about the voice thing if you don't think in that way. I read everyone's post in my own internal monologue like I'm reading them out loud. 3. Thank you for sharing that. It was a very personal and difficult question that I asked. Well I don't think you're crazy, but I know what you mean. I'd feel the same if I was to describe how I felt about my gender identity. This is just your way of conceiving of your whole self. There is no split personality, just two clear aspects of the one. Well that is my interpretation of what you've said. Feel to free to correct me if I've misunderstood. What I was trying to learn was how each of you determine what you are, or when you clearly feel male or female, so that I can more easily determine those things in myself. I suppose I go back to my point above, which behaviours and feelings are male and which are female. A lot of my recognition of my female side comes from the clear signs of gender euphoria and gender envy, and not so much around what gender I think my behaviours are. So I don't know how much of me is male, and how much female, and even if that really matters. There is also the issue of gender dyshporia and its absence, but I think that needs its own thread. Do I just need to do some basic research on the subject of behaviours? Is this all just simple ignorance on my part? I'm starting to think that it is. I would agree with what you said about my personality. Its not a split personality, just two clear aspects of the one. Some might say there is no such thing as male or female behavior and it is all a societal construct. As little boys and girls we are raised to behave a certain way, and so we do.
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Post by Lily on Jul 4, 2021 18:56:07 GMT
Your second sentence is pretty much how I lean and so why I have "trouble" with this.
I'm honestly not going to fret about this too much. My mind is much clearer on this then when I asked. I have a clear label that I'm happy with. What really matters is how I feel inside, and the positive action I can take to express my trans nature i.e. finding out what makes me happier with it and then doing that.
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Post by Maria on Jul 4, 2021 20:25:32 GMT
I think a lot of it is societally constructed, but I also think there are some that are based more in nature, although as with everything in nature they are not fixed and will be there in either greater or lesser amounts.
Women, having the ability to feed the young, are on average gentler, more nurturing and less physical than men. Men being on average bigger and stronger are more physical, and testosterone makes them more aggressive. As they don't need to stay near children for feeding duties, they can go further afield to gather food or to defend their tribe.
Scientifically, I may be speaking rubbish, but that is how I would perceive it.
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Post by Jessica on Jul 5, 2021 16:15:19 GMT
I mean.....it makes sense......(shrugs).
It is when these things get hardwired into our culture that we have a problem. Yes, women are more nurturing and men are stronger....but that shouldn't limit women or men who want to take on roles that don't fit that narrative. We are all different!
I know I am preaching to the choir here.
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Post by chloé on Jul 5, 2021 18:48:23 GMT
You know that to ensure the continuity of humankind, we need only 20% men and 80% women. The genetic sharing is enough. I don’t know why I say that but now it is done. We must find a way to transform a lot of male as female, and the first will be us…😂
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Post by Maria on Jul 5, 2021 19:44:39 GMT
You know that to ensure the continuity of humankind, we need only 20% men and 80% women. The genetic sharing is enough. I don’t know why I say that but now it is done. We must find a way to transform a lot of male as female, and the first will be us…😂 This sounds like the plot of some kind of spy film with an evil mad-scientist genius 😂 Let's just hope that, being the first, we have already been transformed by the time the daring hero arrives and foils their sinister plot!
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Post by Lily on Jul 5, 2021 20:47:35 GMT
"Oh no! You were too late to save us. I guess we'll just have to live the rest of our lives as women. How will we ever recover from this?"
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Post by Jessica on Jul 5, 2021 20:48:33 GMT
You know that to ensure the continuity of humankind, we need only 20% men and 80% women. The genetic sharing is enough. I don’t know why I say that but now it is done. We must find a way to transform a lot of male as female, and the first will be us…😂 This sounds like the plot of some kind of spy film with an evil mad-scientist genius 😂 Let's just hope that, being the first, we have already been transformed by the time the daring hero arrives and foils their sinister plot! I'd watch the hell out of that movie and I'd root for the bad guy.
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Post by Maria on Jul 6, 2021 19:46:42 GMT
This sounds like the plot of some kind of spy film with an evil mad-scientist genius 😂 Let's just hope that, being the first, we have already been transformed by the time the daring hero arrives and foils their sinister plot! I'd watch the hell out of that movie and I'd root for the bad guy. Not that this has anything at all to do with gender, but a surprising amount growing up I used to root for the bad guys in films. My favourites were Darth Vader and Captain Hook. They just seemed so much more interesting than the good guys... :/
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Post by Jessica on Jul 7, 2021 14:36:12 GMT
I'd watch the hell out of that movie and I'd root for the bad guy. Not that this has anything at all to do with gender, but a surprising amount growing up I used to root for the bad guys in films. My favourites were Darth Vader and Captain Hook. They just seemed so much more interesting than the good guys... :/ So you're telling me you're evil......
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Post by Maria on Jul 7, 2021 16:25:41 GMT
Not that this has anything at all to do with gender, but a surprising amount growing up I used to root for the bad guys in films. My favourites were Darth Vader and Captain Hook. They just seemed so much more interesting than the good guys... :/ So you're telling me you're evil...... It's heartbreaking what all those years of repression will do to a girl's moral compass
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Post by Lily on Jul 7, 2021 17:54:01 GMT
So you're telling me you're evil...... It's heartbreaking what all those years of repression will do to a girl's moral compass I'm Dorothy in this. Guess which one Maria is.
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Post by Maria on Jul 7, 2021 17:58:32 GMT
It's heartbreaking what all those years of repression will do to a girl's moral compass I'm Dorothy in this. Guess which one Maria is. The cute dog? 😇
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Post by chloé on Jul 7, 2021 19:27:26 GMT
the dog is really too cute for being Maria
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Post by Maria on Jul 7, 2021 20:55:32 GMT
the dog is really too cute for being Maria After my generously sized dinner that I made to eat while watching, I feel like I should be the house that falls on the witch at the beginning 😂
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