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Post by Lily on Jul 24, 2021 20:34:03 GMT
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Post by Maria on Jul 24, 2021 22:42:20 GMT
Hi Sandi Mae! I think I know what you're getting at so I'll answer and hope I'm right lol.
I think being completely honest, yes you probably will experience that reaction. I believe it is very common, actually not just among trans women but actually it occurs in cis women too (well obviously not physiologically the same, but mentally/emotionally). I think for our cis-ters it's more when they're dressed up fancy though, and it's more of a reaction to like "damn, I look fiiiiine", so it's not as common for them.
For us trans girls though, I think (and it has been my experience) that it becomes a less common reaction the more used you become to dressing in a given clothing item. When you first start, compared to literally everything you've ever worn, you look and feel so much more like an attractive woman, hence the reaction. And as time passes, that feeling becomes more normal and so those "everday" dressing experiences don't elicit that reaction.
With swimsuits being a little (or a lot, depending on the design) more revealing and sensual though, I think it is VERY likely that the first few times at least, that will be the response. So I don't think it's anything to be concerned about, and you could even view it as a confirmation that you're looking good in whatever you've treated yourself to!
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Post by Lily on Jul 24, 2021 23:26:12 GMT
Thanks Maria. I'm very relieved to hear you say that.
I haven't had any such reaction like that for years and certainly not since I've been here. However my very first experience in dressing was with a swimsuit. This was I was in mid-to-late teens and that reaction did happen. Of course now I know this is in no way a kink, but those initial experiences did make me believe that. Back then there was no internet to research such things. Now I was more worried about how uncomfortable it might make me feel, than any doubts it might produce. As you've put my mind at ease I'll order one of those swimsuits very shortly.
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Post by Lily on Jul 25, 2021 2:38:18 GMT
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Post by Jessica on Jul 25, 2021 19:49:57 GMT
Sandi, all I can say is this is a very personal decision you'll have to decide on your own. I will say that, especially with swimsuits I have experienced what you are describing. It very much could happen. I love swimsuits, and they are some of my favorite parts of your collection. But you just have to decide whether you are comfortable with that or not. It is very much a personal preference. FWIW I like the black one with the dress!
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Post by Lily on Jul 25, 2021 20:15:11 GMT
Sandi, all I can say is this is a very personal decision you'll have to decide on your own. I will say that, especially with swimsuits I have experienced what you are describing. It very much could happen. I love swimsuits, and they are some of my favorite parts of your collection. But you just have to decide whether you are comfortable with that or not. It is very much a personal preference. FWIW I like the black one with the dress! One of the reasons I ordered one in the end was that I need to know one or another. I don't want to avoid wearing something out of unnecessary worry. If when I try it on I don't like it at least I'll know. On the other hand I may just really enjoy it like all the other clothes I've tried. The black one with the dress is very nice, I didn't order it because I had doubts as to whether it would fit or not.
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Swimsuit
Jul 25, 2021 20:24:05 GMT
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Post by Maria on Jul 25, 2021 20:24:05 GMT
Even if you do get that reaction though, definitely keep trying! As you get used to it and it's not "new and exciting" each time, hopefully that reaction will lessen and disappear
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Post by Lily on Jul 25, 2021 21:06:39 GMT
Absolutely. I'm seeing it as less of a problem now anyway. I am confident enough in my gender identity that I don't think it'll bother me. I think I'd be more bothered by the lack of any type of reaction - I demand at least some gender euphoria for my money!
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Post by Jessica on Jul 26, 2021 13:53:30 GMT
I echo Maria's sentiments. When you dress regularly it feels natural and the "excitement" wears off. I don't get to dress regularly, so when I do I usually get "that reaction" no matter what I wear.
One of the great things about women's swimsuits is they tend to stretch. So you don't have to get the size "exactly" right.
I love swimsuits. I love the feminine feel of a one piece.
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Post by chloé on Jul 26, 2021 15:41:40 GMT
I never thought about wearing woman swimsuit, with my body, I will be more a wrestler than a girl, Then I will stay more classical in my choices of outfit. 🇫🇷 Chloé
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Post by Jessica on Jul 27, 2021 14:06:29 GMT
I never thought about wearing woman swimsuit, with my body, I will be more a wrestler than a girl, Then I will stay more classical in my choices of outfit. 🇫🇷 Chloé Unless you need to go swimming sometime haha.
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Post by Jessica on Jul 27, 2021 14:07:49 GMT
I never thought about wearing woman swimsuit, with my body, I will be more a wrestler than a girl, Then I will stay more classical in my choices of outfit. 🇫🇷 Chloé When you say you look like a wrestler I assume this is what you mean.
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Post by Lily on Jul 27, 2021 15:40:11 GMT
Everyone ignore the picture of that hot blonde that Jessica posted. I'm sure she did so purely to make her point, and not for any other shallow reasons I got the swimsuit from the locker this afternoon. I've just tried it on, and am wearing it now. I had no reaction other than it feels very nice, and I think I look quite fetching in it. So no different to any other feminine clothes I've worn since coming here. The only downsides are that I couldn't get the one I really wanted, and that I can't fill out the top half as well as I'd like to. Sadly there is a bit of disparity between my bust size and waist size.
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Swimsuit
Jul 27, 2021 22:42:04 GMT
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Post by Maria on Jul 27, 2021 22:42:04 GMT
Jessica - no I'm sitting here thinking how unfair it is that I don't look like Becky Lynch 😡 Sandi Mae - yay Glad that any possible uncomfortable reactions didn't happen and that you like it. Not sure what to suggest about the top half - there are some DIY solutions that I've read about, but I never had too much success with any of the few that I tried.
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Post by Lily on Jul 28, 2021 0:45:03 GMT
I think it would take something very special indeed to elicit any arousal in me from just wearing the item.
My worry came from that very first time I wore feminine clothing. I badly, but understandably, misinterpreted what has happening. I'm probably going to say too much here, but that's never stopped me before. That whole thing was further complicated by having the same reaction when I first saw it worn by anybody, and who that "anybody" was.
I think I'm fine without anything extra added. Yes, those cups are a bit empty but putting extra down there would ruin the feel I think. This is all for my benefit to please or convince anyone else after all.
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