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Post by Lily on Aug 11, 2021 20:08:41 GMT
Just thought I'd share a couple of things I did today to affirm who I am inside.
Very early on after I came here I started shaving the top of my torso. I'm not that hairy so it doesn't take a lot. I haven't had to go further down than my breasts. Directly below there isn't noticably hairy, it only get thicker around my navel. Today though I carried shaving all around that area, essentially shaving down to my waist. I just thought why not try and see what the results are. I was surprised by how much I liked the look, and am very pleased with how bare it is, particularly around my belly button. The hair's been there so long I'd forgotten what my tummy looked like without it. Though my tummy could do with being a bit smaller, I do like having some love handles and how soft I am there, so it's nice it looks more womanly to me now.
I'm now at the stage where I don't really like seeing my birthname. I don't hate it but it does make me feel uncomfortable. Everytime I boot-up my Playstation I am confronted with it, and I could do without that feeling when all I want is a bit of escapism. So today I decided to change it to reflect the name you all know me by here. I also changed my avatar from a male figure (Vivi from Final Fantasy IX) to a cute female with glasses (much like myself). I also changed all the details of my account so that all the male names and email addresses were changed to my newer female ones.
Neither of those are particularly big deal, but they all contribute to make my life align with my gender more, and so make me a little happier.
Are there any little things that you do that no-one else would necessarily notice or realise, but are important to you?
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Post by Kelli Ann on Aug 12, 2021 2:56:26 GMT
Sandi I guarantee that if you shaved your whole body especially your legs and put some moisturizer on them you will never go back to any body hair. I used to keep my body shaved, underarms and all and what a constant feminine feeling I had. I would do anything to shave again. Shaving really brings out the woman within and helps with the emotions.
So go ahead and indulge and immerse yourself in body hair removal and have fun with it. Like I said you won’t regret it.
You are truly blessed with the opportunity to explore and be yourself. Take advantage of it.
I really don’t have any little things I do to remind me of my feminine side but I wish I did. I could think of a million things but my current situation won’t let me participate.
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Post by Lily on Aug 12, 2021 10:27:36 GMT
Shaving everywhere else is defintitely something I'll be doing at some point. I think I'll do it bit by bit, so I can process and savour how each newly shaven area feels.
Do any of you have tips as to do this i.e. best methods and implements, and after care. I need a new electric shaver anyway so any advice on that front would be welcome.
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Post by Jessica on Aug 12, 2021 14:36:15 GMT
Well starting this site is one haha.
I have said I keep my girly wardrobe in a storage locker.
I also have been maintaining my nether regions since my surgery.
I am certain there are others but I can't think of any right now.
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Post by Maria on Aug 13, 2021 10:39:05 GMT
I think keeping body hair away is probably the main one for me too. Also whenever possible I will have women's underwear and socks on, even if everything else I am wearing is presenting male.
I wrote tips and tricks out but then realised I'd written practically a small book lmao. So I thought I'll put that in a separate thread, as it's something that people visiting the site might find useful, and if it's in a different section they're more likely to come across it!
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Post by Maria on Aug 14, 2021 11:02:29 GMT
I thought of another thing - I always wear women's deodorant. The one I use come in a spray that the logo on it is blue, so at a glance it looks like it should be a male one from the colours (if anyone sees it when visiting, for example). But aside from anything else, being affirming or whatever - women's deodorants just smell so much more pleasant than men's ones.
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Post by Lily on Aug 14, 2021 11:44:02 GMT
I thought of another thing - I always wear women's deodorant. The one I use come in a spray that the logo on it is blue, so at a glance it looks like it should be a male one from the colours (if anyone sees it when visiting, for example). But aside from anything else, being affirming or whatever - women's deodorants just smell so much more pleasant than men's ones. That's one I've never thought of. That wouldn't be too difficult to get hold of, could probably just get from a supermarket shelf. May try that sometime soon.
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Post by Kelli Ann on Aug 24, 2021 2:58:38 GMT
I use a Venus women’s razor to shave my penis, testicles, and but crack. I know that sounds funny but when I am done knowing that I used a girlie razor and my private front and back section is shaved it makes me feel feminine.
Oh how I wish my wife would let me return to the good old days and let me keep my whole body shaved. You talk about a constant euphoric womanly feeling, I definetely had it.
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Post by Jessica on Aug 24, 2021 13:44:59 GMT
I use a Venus women’s razor to shave my penis, testicles, and but crack. I know that sounds funny but when I am done knowing that I used a girlie razor and my private front and back section is shaved it makes me feel feminine. Oh how I wish my wife would let me return to the good old days and let me keep my whole body shaved. You talk about a constant euphoric womanly feeling, I definetely had it. It doesn't sound funny! Its the little things! I have runners tights that I wear. They aren't even meant for women but I love them nonetheless!
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Post by Maria on Sept 11, 2021 17:43:40 GMT
I've thought of another little thing. Not that it's an everyday thing, but it's nice that it means something.
One of the songs which is always in our live set is Born This Way. We've reworked it slightly to fit in a massive guitar solo in the middle. I realised going through things for our return to gigging that immediately after that is the line mentioning trans people. So now whenever we get to that part, as I'm coming out of the solo, I do like the "rockstar pose" for want of a better phrase, with one arm raised up to the crowd.
So to everyone else it looks like I'm doing the whole "I just played something awesome, cheer for me" thing, but in fact to me it's not that at all - it's a sign of acknowledgement to all my non-cis compatriots.
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Post by Lily on Sept 12, 2021 14:39:39 GMT
Yesterday evening while my sister was sleeping on the couch, I came downstairs to cook my tea. I was going to change out of my new skirt, but I liked myself too much in it, so I kept in on. I covered it up with my tracky bottoms, and my red top with my t-shirt. Seeing that she was still asleep I removed the covering, and proceded to cook in the clothes that I really wanted to wear. I even made myself dizzy spinning round and round enjoying seeing my skirt float around me. This was the first time I've been downstairs in my proper clothes, and though it was only for about 10 mins or so, it felt really nice. I wasn't just cooped up in my room doing it, I felt more like a free woman. As a little post-script to that, just now I was chatting with my sister and the subject of Abba came up. She has one of the singer's recent solo albums and offered to lend it to me. However she did warn me that it might be a "bit too girly" for me. I couldn't help but visibly smirk at that comment. Perhaps I missed my opportunity to say "Well actually that isn't a problem because ..." and come out
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Post by Jessica on Sept 12, 2021 23:32:08 GMT
That's so cliche Sandi. Who hasn't come out over an Abba solo album?
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Post by Maria on Sept 13, 2021 8:31:07 GMT
That's so cliche Sandi. Who hasn't come out over an Abba solo album? Err *raises hand* 😂 That's so brave though Sandi! I wouldn't have been able to do that, I'd have been to worried about what if she woke up. It is lovely doing normal day-to-day things while dressed in an affirming way though, like you say. It definitely feels more free than being restricted to what you can do whilst hidden away.
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Post by Lily on Sept 13, 2021 8:49:52 GMT
That's so cliche Sandi. Who hasn't come out over an Abba solo album? Err *raises hand* 😂 That's so brave though Sandi! I wouldn't have been able to do that, I'd have been to worried about what if she woke up. It is lovely doing normal day-to-day things while dressed in an affirming way though, like you say. It definitely feels more free than being restricted to what you can do whilst hidden away. i had an escape plan in place don't worry. I could just grab my guy clothes and run to the bathroom to cover up. Of course there is a part of me that would like her to accidentally find out, because that takes the pressure away from initiating the conversation myself. However I do know that it would only make things much more difficult, so I won't be leaving any clues for her. Right now I don't think I'd be able to find the words, and even if I could I doubt I would be able to speak them out loud.
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Post by Lily on Sept 13, 2021 8:53:16 GMT
That's so cliche Sandi. Who hasn't come out over an Abba solo album? That's exactly why I didn't do it! Erm, not because I'm too frightened to do it or anything like that.
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