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Post by angela on Sept 16, 2022 14:38:30 GMT
Last night my brother's fiancee Tina texted me with an update on his condition concerning his surgery. I saw a text come across my phone saying in the opening "Hi Angela" I was curious who it was from as so few people know me as Angela. But my brother is one though he vehemently rejects it and acts as if I never came out to him.And my Mom would relate to me when I pushed her to try to get my brothers to accept me as their sister both refused but Roger the brother with Tina would get angry. Tina has also been keeping my wife updated so that is important because I was so excited about receiving a message acknowledging me as Angela that I wrote a text but have not sent it to Tina coming out to her. But I am afraid she might be as anti-lgbt as my wife and brother are and tell my wife. Who I don't want to hurt. But I wonder did my brother tell her and she accidentally called me by my real as she was really tired. She did send a text that said she was sorry the phone misunderstood her. Without saying what she was sorry for. Should I send the text what do you girls think? Xoxoxo Angela
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Post by Lily on Sept 16, 2022 16:26:11 GMT
As there's a lot of uncertainty around why she called you Angela, I would say ask her just that. Perhaps also ask her to clarify what she was sorry for.
She might be thinking that she shouldn't have called you that because she wasn't supposed to know. That could be why she apologised, and might be backtracking on it. Alternatively your brother might not have liked what she did and that could be another reason for the apology.
In summary I'd say get a bit more information from her before sending that coming out message.
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Post by Jessica on Sept 17, 2022 11:26:25 GMT
Yeah, without knowing the dynamics of your situation it is hard to give good advice I feel comfortable about. But I like Lily's advice. Clarify. Ask her why she called you Angela and give her a chance to admit the true reason. If she does, you might find out she is more tolerant than you think and you make have a new ally! I am probably too optimistic but you never know.
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