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Post by angela on Jun 7, 2023 9:51:44 GMT
Hey girls, curious what steps you might take to disquiet the dysphoria. Being in the closet obviously makes it difficult, i.e. painting your toenails. If you don't have to go barefoot around a wife or children I could see this. But being in the closet myself I don't have a way to make her quiet down and her voice bounces around in my brain all day. Makes it really hard to focus.
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Post by Jessica on Jun 7, 2023 14:31:02 GMT
I am in a similar situation as you.
For one, I created this site for that reason.
I always dress when my wife is out of town with the kids. I order stuff delivered to the house and throw it out after. Not too cost effective. But its what I do.
Other than that it can be tough. I dont have much to offer. Sometimes I live vicariously through my wife. I’ve been buying her clothes lately. She thinks its romantic/sexy that I am buying stuff I want to see her in. And that is 100% part of it. But I also end up buying her stuff I know I’d want to try myself haha.
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Post by angela on Jun 7, 2023 16:06:11 GMT
Jessica, My wife will not allow me to purchase clothes especially anything sexy. She knows of my past struggles. And she says it had better remain in the past that I had better be in remission.
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Post by Lily on Jun 8, 2023 8:43:35 GMT
As my nephew is in the house most of the time that I am it can be difficult. So for me it is bedtime, I have a babydoll nightie that I wear in bed, safe in the knowledge that no-one will see me. I also have two dolls and I hug one of those before dropping off to sleep. This helps me to satiate my motherly side.
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Post by angela on Jun 8, 2023 11:04:55 GMT
Wow Lily, I am so jealous! I sleep with my wife each night so no nighties. It has been so very long since I have been able to wake wearing feminine attire.i do sleep holding a teddy bear. A habit I picked up from my wife. She uses it to be between her breasts which makes her more comfortable. I guess I do it out of envy I always have longed for a feminine body.
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Post by Jessica on Jun 12, 2023 9:44:09 GMT
Jessica, My wife will not allow me to purchase clothes especially anything sexy. She knows of my past struggles. And she says it had better remain in the past that I had better be in remission. Mine doesn’t know about it but I feel would feel the same.
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Post by Maria on Jun 12, 2023 10:13:46 GMT
I am lucky in some respects with this, as a lot of the time I am on my own. I'm a single parent, so at weekends when little one goes to their mum's house, I have the whole (or at least most) of the weekend where I can wear whatever I wish. I will as much as possible always try to get errands and things done during the week so that I don't have to go out during that weekend period, and can remain wearing the right clothes. Then also, during the week between the hours of 9am and 3pm little one is at school, so again I will often during some or all of those hours change into something a bit more mentally comfortable, if it's possible.
Outside of that... well, talking here helps. There are also some trans (or trans-supportive) Youtubers that I enjoy watching, and who can help cheer me up if I'm having a bad day with dysphoria. Or playing games with female characters. Although once again, for these things because there is no one around to see, I can do them without worry. The closest would be like if I was on here, or browsing Reddit, on my phone after school has finished. But then because it's a small screen, I can keep it hidden, and because of the relationship dynamic between parent and child, as opposed to between spouses, I'm not going to get asked what I'm doing or who I'm talking to.
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Post by angela on Jun 12, 2023 19:14:11 GMT
😀!!!!!!
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