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Sept 22, 2023 18:20:08 GMT
Post by angela on Sept 22, 2023 18:20:08 GMT
At the beginning of pride month, I outed myself to a lesbian couple in our neighborhood who I have done some plumbing work for. Also one of them and I have become friends of sort over our sharedinterestin the Pittsburgh Penguins. I have hinted around aboutwhoi was before but this time the urge to tell someone who I really was could not be contained..they asked if they should call me Angela and I said yes. Jill my friend texted me asking if I could do some work for them and I said yes. And now I am so nervous about what it will be like. No one has called me Angela where my ears could hear it. I feel stupid, I will not be able to dress. My voice is so deep, I can't pass. Do I have a right to call myself a woman to these two real women? I thought I might wear some lipstick but would it be appropriate. I have more questions than answers. Love Angela
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Sept 23, 2023 13:03:44 GMT
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Post by Jessica on Sept 23, 2023 13:03:44 GMT
Hey Angela,
I think it is only a big deal if you make it! The couple seems comfortable with it. You do what you want and you’ll be OK!
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Post by Lily on Sept 24, 2023 7:41:18 GMT
Hi Angela,
While I understand where all those questions are coming from, there is really no need. As Jessica has said they will be ok with it.
I've had some experience in presenting male to someone you're out to. It does feel a little uncomfortable having them call you your chosen name while looking and sounding male, but the other person understands the situation you are in.
By the very nature of being a trans woman, this is how we look and sound before we take steps to change that. However we are still women, so please don't feel you can not call yourself that.
Hope that helps.
Lily x
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Post by Lily on Oct 19, 2023 23:35:57 GMT
Angela,
Whenever you're on here again. Let us know how you're getting on. I worry about how isolated you are in your personal situation with family etc
We're here for you, and are willing to provide more than advice to any direct questions you post. I certainly have the time at the moment to chat in whichever way suits you. It's completely up to you of course, so please don't feel any pressure just because I offered.
Your friend Lily
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