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Post by curioushabit on Jun 17, 2021 0:14:18 GMT
Hey Everyone,
I'm a married 40-something guy who has always enjoyed dressing in female clothing. My wife is not interested in my curious habits, but she is aware of them, and is as understanding as she can be, given her perspective. She's not the magical unicorn that is 'all-in' on wanting to explore my many interests, but she is magical in the sense that I have told her a lot about my peculiarities, and she's been fantastic about trying to make sense of it.
If my cross-dressing interests aren't enough of a test of her adaptability, I'm also a DL, and have a variety of other kinky interests. One that she has definitely taken an interest in is chastity play. At the moment, she's got the key to my cage, and has been enjoying the power it gives her over me.
Back to my 'closet trans' side, I would say that I'm still mostly "male-leaning" on gender identity, but there are times I would like to explore femininity a bit more. I would say that my main gender identity is male, but that I find female role-play to be exciting and arousing.
I suspect that there are a lot of folks that have similar leanings?
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Post by chloé on Jun 17, 2021 15:02:04 GMT
Hi, I totally understand, exploring my female side arouses me definitely and the position of my wife is close to yours, but a little worse. I live wearing women’s clothed and roleplay.
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Post by emoryahlberg on Jun 18, 2021 8:27:58 GMT
Hello Curious,
I would definitely say you are far from alone. It's wonderful to have a supportive partner, even if she is only "tolerant" and not enthusiastic. Something I think that is often missed is how "policed" males are with our gender expression anyway. A woman can openly desire to have more masculine traits and she will be praised. If a man does the same, he is ridiculed. I wonder how much this plays into our collective "secrets."
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Post by Jessica on Jun 18, 2021 14:57:30 GMT
Hey Everyone, I'm a married 40-something guy who has always enjoyed dressing in female clothing. My wife is not interested in my curious habits, but she is aware of them, and is as understanding as she can be, given her perspective. She's not the magical unicorn that is 'all-in' on wanting to explore my many interests, but she is magical in the sense that I have told her a lot about my peculiarities, and she's been fantastic about trying to make sense of it. If my cross-dressing interests aren't enough of a test of her adaptability, I'm also a DL, and have a variety of other kinky interests. One that she has definitely taken an interest in is chastity play. At the moment, she's got the key to my cage, and has been enjoying the power it gives her over me. Back to my 'closet trans' side, I would say that I'm still mostly "male-leaning" on gender identity, but there are times I would like to explore femininity a bit more. I would say that my main gender identity is male, but that I find female role-play to be exciting and arousing.
I suspect that there are a lot of folks that have similar leanings?
Welcome, Curious. I totally understand where you're coming from. Right now I am personally trying to decide if I am more like you or further down the "trans spectrum" if you will. Finding the answer to that question is one of the reasons I made this site. I like some of the insight you put on a different thread. Seems like you have pretty developed, well thought out opinions on this particular subject and I look forward to hearing from you more!
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Post by Jessica on Jun 18, 2021 14:59:19 GMT
Hello Curious, I would definitely say you are far from alone. It's wonderful to have a supportive partner, even if she is only "tolerant" and not enthusiastic. Something I think that is often missed is how "policed" males are with our gender expression anyway. A woman can openly desire to have more masculine traits and she will be praised. If a man does the same, he is ridiculed. I wonder how much this plays into our collective "secrets." Awesome point Emory. There is a SIGNIFICANT double standard there isn't there? I wonder if I was more free to express who I am without ridicule if I would feel so strongly about my feminine side? Maybe I'm just a repressed male with a kink that needs to be addressed haha!
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Post by chloé on Jun 18, 2021 20:53:47 GMT
Hello Curious, I would definitely say you are far from alone. It's wonderful to have a supportive partner, even if she is only "tolerant" and not enthusiastic. Something I think that is often missed is how "policed" males are with our gender expression anyway. A woman can openly desire to have more masculine traits and she will be praised. If a man does the same, he is ridiculed. I wonder how much this plays into our collective "secrets." I definitely agree, when I told to my wife that I wanted to be a woman she told me that it would be a real mistake because being a woman sucks. When you say that to men they laugh and they don’t see you anymore as a real man, but when a woman says that she wants to be a man, everyone says that she makes the right choice and don’t laugh. It is so injust, especially because there are far more trans MtF than FtM.
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