Post by k on Jun 17, 2021 18:09:30 GMT
Hey all, I’m in my 30’s and don’t really know what I am but it’s not a cis male. I’ve been married 12 years and decided to tell my wife about my situation a couple years ago. It was during a drunken night at home together when she showed me the new gender swap Snapchat filter. I could not help myself and cried seeing the me in my head for the first time on video. She was initially supportive and asked a lot of questions which helped me process a lot of ideas about myself. She was the first person I’ve ever told my secret to (pretty sure my mom knows somethings up though).
Anyway, wife froze up a bit a few months later and we decided to talk to therapists. I feel mine did nothing but agree with me on anything I said. It was totally useless to me. I wanted some introspection, some answer to why but it was just paid venting sessions.
I’ve tried mingling with the lgbt community in the past but I just don’t connect with it. It’s been a mixed bag with my wife. I’m glad I told her and it’s kind of freeing talking and doing girly things together with her. We do facial masks regularly, paint each other’s nails, talk about clothes for her to wear. She gets compliments at work on clothes I’ve bought for her with my own taste. It’s fun but also comes with other baggage. I’ve decided to never come out to anyone again.
I used to dress up quite successfully when I was younger and had an extensive amount of clothes, body shapers and make-up. Now, I’m too old and too tall to transition as a passable female. I just keep getting uglier and hairier as I get older lol. I’m a vain person and would rather be this male thing than be stared at.
Ive come to the current conclusion that I’m gender fluid. My mental image is a female and has been my whole life. I sometimes forget I’m a dude when talking to people haha. But I do enjoy male-dominated hobbies and am more interested in things vs people like a cis male. However, if I was offered “the button”, I’d press it in a heartbeat and be absolutely euphoric!
Unless technology advances significantly I’m never going to transition and I think this is the first community I’ve seen that supports that.
Anyway, wife froze up a bit a few months later and we decided to talk to therapists. I feel mine did nothing but agree with me on anything I said. It was totally useless to me. I wanted some introspection, some answer to why but it was just paid venting sessions.
I’ve tried mingling with the lgbt community in the past but I just don’t connect with it. It’s been a mixed bag with my wife. I’m glad I told her and it’s kind of freeing talking and doing girly things together with her. We do facial masks regularly, paint each other’s nails, talk about clothes for her to wear. She gets compliments at work on clothes I’ve bought for her with my own taste. It’s fun but also comes with other baggage. I’ve decided to never come out to anyone again.
I used to dress up quite successfully when I was younger and had an extensive amount of clothes, body shapers and make-up. Now, I’m too old and too tall to transition as a passable female. I just keep getting uglier and hairier as I get older lol. I’m a vain person and would rather be this male thing than be stared at.
Ive come to the current conclusion that I’m gender fluid. My mental image is a female and has been my whole life. I sometimes forget I’m a dude when talking to people haha. But I do enjoy male-dominated hobbies and am more interested in things vs people like a cis male. However, if I was offered “the button”, I’d press it in a heartbeat and be absolutely euphoric!
Unless technology advances significantly I’m never going to transition and I think this is the first community I’ve seen that supports that.