Post by Jessica on May 22, 2021 15:39:47 GMT
Genderfluidity is an interesting concept that my pretty little head has a hard time wrapping itself around. The definition of gender fluid is "denoting or relating to a person who does not identify themselves as having a fixed gender." If someone is genderfluid they can be male one day and female the next. They don't identify as one gender or the other on a permanent basis.
It was once suggested to me in a chat that I might be gender fluid, and the idea has stuck with me ever since. One of the things I have hoped to accomplish with online therapy is dig into this idea more, learn more about it, and determine if that is what I am! But I have never been able to find an online therapist who really gets it, or is trained to deal with trans folks enough to go down that path with me.
The suggestion was made to me because I told them about how I deal with dysphoria regularly but have no intention of transitioning. I told them I actually function well as a male in society, and have no problem adapting to the the role. I am a beer drinking, sports loving dude who is a good father and husband. I was never bullied as a kid or exhibited any feminine tendencies. If I came out today, I think my friends and family would be absolutely blown away in surprise. And I would continue to be all of those things (with a few pronouns changed) if I magically became a woman one day. I also told this person about how my dysphoria ebbs and flows. I can go days, or weeks, or months where I rarely think about my dysphoria and operate life as normal. I can also go days, or weeks or months where it comes on so strong that I feel compelled to seek help and am almost constantly thinking about it.
All of this combined to the point that my online friend suggested that I may be gender fluid. That I am a man sometimes, and sometimes I am a woman. It would explain several things, but I don't know that I agree totally. If I found a genie in a bottle one day, my first wish would be to become a beautiful woman. I definitely feel like I am trans. But I don't know.....the person made some interesting points and it has definitely stuck with me.
What do you all think about this concept? Could it apply to you?
So far this is more of a blog than a forum, haha, but I am taking steps to find some of you and bring you here. I know you're out there!
Love,
Jess
It was once suggested to me in a chat that I might be gender fluid, and the idea has stuck with me ever since. One of the things I have hoped to accomplish with online therapy is dig into this idea more, learn more about it, and determine if that is what I am! But I have never been able to find an online therapist who really gets it, or is trained to deal with trans folks enough to go down that path with me.
The suggestion was made to me because I told them about how I deal with dysphoria regularly but have no intention of transitioning. I told them I actually function well as a male in society, and have no problem adapting to the the role. I am a beer drinking, sports loving dude who is a good father and husband. I was never bullied as a kid or exhibited any feminine tendencies. If I came out today, I think my friends and family would be absolutely blown away in surprise. And I would continue to be all of those things (with a few pronouns changed) if I magically became a woman one day. I also told this person about how my dysphoria ebbs and flows. I can go days, or weeks, or months where I rarely think about my dysphoria and operate life as normal. I can also go days, or weeks or months where it comes on so strong that I feel compelled to seek help and am almost constantly thinking about it.
All of this combined to the point that my online friend suggested that I may be gender fluid. That I am a man sometimes, and sometimes I am a woman. It would explain several things, but I don't know that I agree totally. If I found a genie in a bottle one day, my first wish would be to become a beautiful woman. I definitely feel like I am trans. But I don't know.....the person made some interesting points and it has definitely stuck with me.
What do you all think about this concept? Could it apply to you?
So far this is more of a blog than a forum, haha, but I am taking steps to find some of you and bring you here. I know you're out there!
Love,
Jess