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Post by Maria on Jul 30, 2021 19:43:42 GMT
So the background first: in a couple of weeks' time I'm going on holiday for a few days. Staying in a caravan park in the UK with my small person and also my parents. Which I'm really looking forwards to. The only problem being that we're all sharing a caravan and also the park has an indoor pool. Neither of which are problems in themselves, but I don't want awkward questions about body hair (or lack thereof). So I'm having to let it grow for a couple of weeks to avoid that. I know 3 weeks isn't enough time for it to fully grow back out, but I'm hoping there will be enough to either avoid the questions or else be able to get away with an answer of "yeah I keep it short now to help me to stop overheating in the summer". Which with how I overheat is believable lol. I last got rid of it at the beginning of the week and today would have been the next day to do it. Not looking forwards to nearly a month of having to have it And then feeling kind of despondent about changing into the clothes I feel myself in, because of the visible hair, (and feeling it too). I know it's not the biggest thing in the world and that I'm lucky to be able to have this time away with family. And I am really looking forward to it. Just... having a little whinge about this particular aspect lol.
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Post by Lily on Jul 30, 2021 20:58:57 GMT
Though it's great you're going on holiday, it does suck that you have to make this concession to feel comfortable enough to do so. That is on top of the many that you make in the rest of your life, so whinge away.
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Post by Jessica on Aug 1, 2021 3:35:37 GMT
As someone with very hairy legs and chest and no real way to avoid it I feel your pain. Its a bummer for sure.
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Post by Maria on Aug 1, 2021 11:13:52 GMT
Oh I used to be one of those people where you couldn't even see that I had legs under it all. That's why I need the excuse about overheating at the ready, as to wait for them to be how they used to be I'd have to leave them alone for about 6 months. Although the leg hair isn't as upsetting as the torso hair. At least with the former I know cis women have that too, so it's just like I'm just being a very lazy girl lol. But hairy boobs... cry
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Post by Jessica on Aug 1, 2021 18:59:54 GMT
It is sad....although I don't really have any boobs to speak of anyway.
I have enjoyed maintaining a hairless nether region lately.
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Post by Maria on Sept 14, 2021 8:56:10 GMT
Having another little mope after the other night. While it almost certainly would never have actually happened, I sort of had planned out in my head who I would go to if I ever were to actually come out to someone in real life. And while I can't imagine it would have ever gotten past that "plan" stage, it was sort of nice having it there in the back of my mind as a kind of rough idea of how it would go down if I ever wanted/needed it to. Anyway, after our show on Saturday night I was stood around chatting to her, her husband and one of her female friends about various things, and the subject of diversity training came up. So now I'm a little on edge, as it's starting to skirt into LGBT territory. Aaaaand then it did fully go not only into LGBT matters, but actually specifically into trans issues. Guess who it turns out appears to be a massive transphobe Her husband was spouting "facts" left right and centre which were all either complete and utter tosh, or else taken so far out of context to be completely misleading and inaccurate. And then at one point whilst talking about trans people, she described it as "terrifying". Which, you know, really makes a girl feel good, hearing one of her best friends unwittingly describing her as terrifying And apparently we all come from broken homes and our gender confusion is a response to childhood trauma. What... the actual... f***?!?! So yeah... been feeling a bit meh the last couple of days. A sort of mix of anger and disappointment that perhaps she's not quite the person I thought. Although maybe I should just count myself lucky that I've dodged a bullet compared to if I hadn't ever found this out and then subsequently did want to come out to her :/
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Post by Lily on Sept 14, 2021 13:25:34 GMT
I am so very sorry for what happened to you. What I feared what my friend might be, your friend actually is. It is only a small consolation that at least you know her opinions on people like us before you actually came out to her. Unfortunately people like to have opinions on all sorts of things while being completely ignorant of the facts, and trans issues is one of them. I have seen other similar opinions that is because of mental health issues and that is either an tempting solution to problems, or the result of a broken mind. They get to spout this ridiculous opinions while we have to hide away and suffer.
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Post by Jessica on Sept 14, 2021 14:41:26 GMT
UGHHHHHHHH
People are the worst. That really sucks. I am sorry. That had to be a little heartbreaking.
I don't understand why people even care. It does not impact your life at all. Let people be happy. Get over it.
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