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Post by Jessica on May 12, 2023 13:00:24 GMT
I feel like your progress is starting to snowball. Soon it will be an unstoppable force.
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Post by Maria on May 13, 2023 10:52:40 GMT
Definitely sounds like you've found the one, especially given that you've had that period of doubt and come out the other side feeling even more connected than you did before!
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Post by Lily on May 14, 2023 13:34:50 GMT
It got confirmed a little more yesterday too. Someone else called Lily was there yesterday and we got talking how we chose the name. She is now jokingly referring to herself as the other Lily. I can't remember who now sadly, but someone there said they thought the name really suited me. I can safely say that to change it now and start to be called something else would feel odd.
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Post by Maria on May 16, 2023 20:00:24 GMT
That really sounds like you're building connections and memories to it too Like it's no longer just a name that you're using, but one that you're starting to develop a history with as well.
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Post by angela on Jun 1, 2023 11:22:57 GMT
Lillie, your name is a flower. A beautiful blooming flower! Just as you are a beautiful blooming woman! If it sounds a little too girly GREAT! Actually Lillie tends to be less popular now that in past years. My mother-in-law was Lillie, and we named a stray cat who entered our home one day Lillie, she was so loving. I gets my vote. Happy Pride Month🏳️⚧️ Angela Lynn Metz
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Post by Jessica on Jun 1, 2023 13:05:27 GMT
Hey Angela! Welcome back!
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Post by angela on Jun 1, 2023 18:01:53 GMT
Thank you Jessica
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Post by Lily on Jun 2, 2023 14:48:35 GMT
Lillie, your name is a flower. A beautiful blooming flower! Just as you are a beautiful blooming woman! If it sounds a little too girly GREAT! Actually Lillie tends to be less popular now that in past years. My mother-in-law was Lillie, and we named a stray cat who entered our home one day Lillie, she was so loving. I gets my vote. Happy Pride Month🏳️⚧️ Angela Lynn Metz Thanks Angela. I've crossed the threshold and really don't see myself changing my name now.
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Post by Maria on Jun 3, 2023 19:49:30 GMT
Well said Angela (and rather poetic too!)
I have to say though, that's a much more polite name than I call the cat who comes into our house 😂 There again in our case it's because we already have a cat, and the break-in cat eats his food and is mean to him.
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Post by angela on Jun 4, 2023 21:40:37 GMT
Maria, Thank you. I wasn't going for poetic but I like the sound of it. I real thought is the hearing of your own (real) name. I have never heard with my physical ears anyone call me by my name. With one exception. When I came out to my mom ( since departed) she was in shock as I stated to her I need to here you call me by my name I need to hear you call me your daughter. She replied " My daughter, my daughter Angela." It was like she was a zombie no love no compassion just words. That was in 2003 and she passed in 2020 in all of that time she never called me by my name or called me her daughter or used feminine pronouns for me. When I would finally ask she would respond that she had known me too long as a boy😔. To be honest I don't know why it means so much to me, but I would be lying if I said it didn't. So I try to be careful to use your feminine names. Because that is who we genuinely are Right?! Do you gals feel like that. I still have not heard my name called out to me. Perhaps it will come soon. Another story for another time. Love you all, Angela.
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Post by Lily on Jun 5, 2023 8:24:55 GMT
I do feel that Lily is my real name. It feels off using my birth name now.
I'll soon be coming out to my sister and of course I'll want her to start calling me Lily sooner or later. An issue here is that I'll be presenting male most of the time I see her, at least initially. As awkward as that might be I hope that once I ask her to change that she alway sticks with it.
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Post by angela on Jun 5, 2023 9:11:55 GMT
Lily, I wish you all the best with that subject with your sister. I have a somewhat similar situation in my own life. This past Thursday I believe it was began pride month, I have two customers who have become friends as one of them is a Pittsburgh Penguins fan like me. ( I am a plumber by trade) they are a lesbian couple and I sent them a text wishing them a happy pride month and attached a traditional rainbow flag but I also sent a separate transgender pride flag. I hesitated to send it initially. And I was really nervous about what they might say in return. I had in the past been a little tipsy and said in a text that I was a sissy but nothing has ever been said about it. So when they did answer it was a beautiful picture saying happy pride. I responded by thanking them because I was nervous sending the text. To which they responded " no nerves allowed. And for some inexplicable reason I fully outed myself. And told them my real name was Angela. And they asked if I would like them to use my " chosen" name or was that private. To which I answered that I would like them to call me Angela. I don't see them a ton even though we live in the same neighborhood. I am both excited and extremely nervous as when we do see each other she always uses my given name. And I have every expectation that I will hear "Hey Angela " called to me for the very first time in my life. And yet I feel very scared. Sorry I can get wordy. I just feel so locked up most of the time. I would really love to hear your story in a more full way if you like. Love Angela
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Post by Jessica on Jun 5, 2023 13:45:41 GMT
That was very brave of you Angela. I would not have the balls to do that!
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Post by Maria on Jun 5, 2023 22:42:48 GMT
Seconded! There are only two people in my "real" life who know this about me, and in fact they are also a lesbian couple! And I remember how terrifying it was telling them. Even though I knew from numerous conversations that they were trans-positive (sadly not always a given even for other members of LGB), there was still that fear of a reaction along the lines of "we do support trans people, but we've known you for years and... no. Don't believe you are one". Thankfully that's not how it played out.
Although even now, it kind of stays as a theoretical conversation topic when it does come up. Because while I am still in my boy-mode disguise it feels wrong to say "yeah this is my name, call me this", as I know it wouldn't match up with what is visually there in front of them. I think for that to happen for me, it would need to be an all or nothing kind of deal.
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Post by Lily on Jun 6, 2023 7:28:03 GMT
Congratulations on doing that Angela. You are a lot braver yjan you give yourself credit for.
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