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Post by Jessica on Jun 29, 2021 4:28:18 GMT
I have actually never asked my wife what it is like to have a vagina. I'd like to, although it would require me thinking of a way to ask that doesn't sound totally random. There are certainly a lot of problems that come with having a vagina, and not just the societal issues that come with being female. They are more prone to diseases than penises, they require more care and maintenance and cleaning, they have periods, etc. But I don't care. I want one. I figured it was silly we weren't having this convo yet, so I am glad I opened it up! We have done some fun stuff with some sex toys too. Never a dildo, but some other things that really up the experience for her. That isn't really something you can do with a penis. It just makes it go faster haha. I totally agree with everything you say here about vulnerability and everything that comes with it. I love it. My wife clearly loves it too, and I love watching her love it. I did ask my ex once what sex felt like as a woman. She described as like a really pleasurable feeling of fullness. I dunno, as I said, I can't say I don't very much like the feeling, but the mechanical actions required during sex as a guy... well that's just what they felt like - mechanical actions. Clunky and awkward. Even before I had my moment of clarity as to my gender, I would be there in the middle of the act thinking "this feels wrong... like I'm playing pretend at being a man". The more in-depth I examine this stuff, the more I realise maybe my brain wasn't as good at repressing as I thought and I am, in fact, just completely clueless lmao. Sometimes in the act of sex I go through it like normal no problem. Sometimes I have to focus on the emotional connection with my partner more than the sexiness of the act because it feels wrong. And sometimes, to be completely honest, I have to pretend I am her to finish the job (shrugs).
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Post by Jessica on Jun 29, 2021 4:29:40 GMT
That’s what my wife described. Fullness and need of being filled and protected. She wants to receive. It’s my problem, I don’t like giving at the end because I don’t like the sensation after and the mechanical dimension of my actions. A sort of little death. Women feelings are more sensation and adaptation and communion with the partner. They feel really what the man gives. I take often the position under and I like it, Chloé appears at this moment. I want to be protected and that someone take care of me and at this moment I feel Chloé. It’s very difficult to hide that to my wife but I do it. She deserves a man and I do the maximum to give it to her even if my mind is female. Hopefully, my body is clearly male, then she doesn’t see Chloé. It is interesting your wives said the same thing. When I figure out a way to ask mine, I will report back my findings on what she says! By the way......I kinda figured my hot dog/taco comment would get more of a reaction haha (blush).
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Post by Maria on Jun 29, 2021 8:57:10 GMT
Isn't it an aubergine emoji that the kids use as an innuendo nowadays?
I was going to say something about not eating meat, and so a taco is more suited to me with the different things you can put in it... but honestly I found no way of phrasing it that wasn't just utterly horrific 😂
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Post by chloé on Jun 29, 2021 11:35:25 GMT
I did ask my ex once what sex felt like as a woman. She described as like a really pleasurable feeling of fullness. I dunno, as I said, I can't say I don't very much like the feeling, but the mechanical actions required during sex as a guy... well that's just what they felt like - mechanical actions. Clunky and awkward. Even before I had my moment of clarity as to my gender, I would be there in the middle of the act thinking "this feels wrong... like I'm playing pretend at being a man". The more in-depth I examine this stuff, the more I realise maybe my brain wasn't as good at repressing as I thought and I am, in fact, just completely clueless lmao. Sometimes in the act of sex I go through it like normal no problem. Sometimes I have to focus on the emotional connection with my partner more than the sexiness of the act because it feels wrong. And sometimes, to be completely honest, I have to pretend I am her to finish the job (shrugs). I have the same behavior with my wife. Often when I want to finish I imagine I’m the woman. It makes me uncomfortable for her. In order to make my male action and give what she expects I become Chloé and I imagine my breasts and my female body in action. I feel guilty? Terribly guilty, I lie to her even if I told her that I would like to be a woman but now I can’t tell it because it became a war cause and I don’t want to lose her. I tried to play on the fact that she doesn’t like being a woman and speaking of exchange our life, but she is too much pragmatic and it doesn’t interest her at all. Because it’s impossible for her, then she doesn’t even consider that as fantasy.
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Post by Lily on Jun 29, 2021 11:40:01 GMT
This conversation feels like we're all together at a pajama party. That we're all laying on the beds or floor, swapping stories and talking girltalk. In this scenario I am being very very quiet, constantly blushing and avoiding eye contact with everyone.
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Post by chloé on Jun 29, 2021 15:15:59 GMT
Hi Woori, sorry if you feel out of the conversation. This conversation is very important for me because the relation with my wife is a big blocking point for the existence of Chloé, that’s why it is important for me to share it with others, especially Jessica. This situation with my wife makes me very sad, but I love her. When you say about the pajama party, i build directly the picture of us in my mind, 5 girls together sharing girls stuff. I love to imagine it. And I suddenly I see that you are not with us, I apologize, I don’t want you feel out of our discussion. ❤️💋 Chloé
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Post by Lily on Jun 29, 2021 15:53:30 GMT
Chloé,
No need to apologise. I was just having a bit of fun. You girls talk about what you want to talk about. I'm happy to just listen.
I just found it very funny how vast the gap was between me and you other girls is on this. How I was the sweet innocent one at our little party, getting all flustered.
xox,
Woori-Mei
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Post by chloé on Jun 29, 2021 16:00:22 GMT
Hi Woori, I really like your analogy with the pajama party, I’m full of images of us. Together, sharing about makeup, guys, girls, clothes, girl problems and laughing.
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Post by Lily on Jun 29, 2021 17:02:42 GMT
Chloe,
You mean like the start of this video?
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Post by chloé on Jun 29, 2021 17:07:29 GMT
Yes, it is the idea. I see us in a living room on the sofas eating things bad for our hips and ass but I don’t care, and laughing, sharing different things, saying bad things about others anf sharing our feeling. and quite light clothed obviously.
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Post by Jessica on Jun 30, 2021 16:47:30 GMT
Isn't it an aubergine emoji that the kids use as an innuendo nowadays? I was going to say something about not eating meat, and so a taco is more suited to me with the different things you can put in it... but honestly I found no way of phrasing it that wasn't just utterly horrific 😂 Ahahahahhahahahahahahahaahahahahahaah.
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Post by Jessica on Jun 30, 2021 16:52:41 GMT
Sometimes in the act of sex I go through it like normal no problem. Sometimes I have to focus on the emotional connection with my partner more than the sexiness of the act because it feels wrong. And sometimes, to be completely honest, I have to pretend I am her to finish the job (shrugs). I have the same behavior with my wife. Often when I want to finish I imagine I’m the woman. It makes me uncomfortable for her. In order to make my male action and give what she expects I become Chloé and I imagine my breasts and my female body in action. I feel guilty? Terribly guilty, I lie to her even if I told her that I would like to be a woman but now I can’t tell it because it became a war cause and I don’t want to lose her. I tried to play on the fact that she doesn’t like being a woman and speaking of exchange our life, but she is too much pragmatic and it doesn’t interest her at all. Because it’s impossible for her, then she doesn’t even consider that as fantasy. I do the same thing with my wife sometimes. Sometimes I am legitimately into it and I don't have to, but sometimes I have to imagine I am on the receiving end. Sometimes she feels a little aggressive and goes on top. Those are my favorite times.
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Post by Jessica on Jun 30, 2021 16:53:35 GMT
This conversation feels like we're all together at a pajama party. That we're all laying on the beds or floor, swapping stories and talking girltalk. In this scenario I am being very very quiet, constantly blushing and avoiding eye contact with everyone. Hey W-M, my question is this. Is this a topic you want to avoid, or is this something you want to talk about but are too shy to? Because if it is the latter I will coax it out of you!
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Post by chloé on Jun 30, 2021 16:54:34 GMT
I have the same behavior with my wife. Often when I want to finish I imagine I’m the woman. It makes me uncomfortable for her. In order to make my male action and give what she expects I become Chloé and I imagine my breasts and my female body in action. I feel guilty? Terribly guilty, I lie to her even if I told her that I would like to be a woman but now I can’t tell it because it became a war cause and I don’t want to lose her. I tried to play on the fact that she doesn’t like being a woman and speaking of exchange our life, but she is too much pragmatic and it doesn’t interest her at all. Because it’s impossible for her, then she doesn’t even consider that as fantasy. I do the same thing with my wife sometimes. Sometimes I am legitimately into it and I don't have to, but sometimes I have to imagine I am on the receiving end. Sometimes she feels a little aggressive and goes on top. Those are my favorite times. I love when she is the man
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Post by Jessica on Jun 30, 2021 16:56:02 GMT
Saw this SNL skit last night while I was resting and it made me think of us. The husband is us pretending to be men and the wife is who we feel like on the inside! Plus its just funny and Margot Robbie is a smokeshow.
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